If you read the previous article ’How do you pleasure yourself’ you may already have slipped below the surface of desire into deeper satisfaction.
However there are times when nothing is a pleasure. Nothing appeals, nothing attracts. You turn in frustrated circles, the taste of disillusion thick in your mouth, there is no escape from it…
There is no escape, perfect! If there is nothing you can do, do nothing.
In a society which worships more doing nothing is close to sin, with the accompanying guilt. If multi tasking is considered desirable how can there be value in untasking? At least listen to a recording, Eckhart, the radio….
It is easy to think of doing nothing as absence of action. But when you stop doing you find that there is a whole lot going on. Your heart beats, overlapping tides of hormones run through your body, you breathe, thoughts call for attention hand in hand with emotions. The ground supports you, air caresses you, light bathes you, and sounds fill the space around you. Something is aware of it all.
It is amazing really, often more than amazing, deeply blissful, it is there all the time though we often overlook it.
It is just necessary to cross the threshold between control and acceptance. For most of us that requires practise, that practise often takes the form of meditation. Then nothing becomes the most refined of pleasures.
Do not worry, however blissful it will get for you, you will not spend the rest of your life stuck to a meditation cushion with a serene (or self satisfied) smile on your face. You will get up and actively engage with life again.
If doing nothing cannot be a pleasure then life is a constant push and pull. There is no stillness.
Stillness is necessary to really make choices rather than react to situations.
If you want to change a habit, change your life do not fight with your reactions, make friends with nothing. Your desire to control may kick and scream, but nothing actually works faster.
In the Intimacy Experience we practise doing nothing in the presence of another person.
This is very practical as other people are situations that we have many automatic reactions to.
It’s more than practical, because as you know a pleasure shared is a pleasure doubled! See you there.
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