Some of you who knew the ‘old’ Edward* will probably imagine me doing my best to surround myself with beautiful women. While it is true that during the Intimacy Experience I do always find myself surrounded by beauty the models I refer to are mental models rather than fashion models. (Yes the two need not be mutually exclusive, but let’s not go there)!If you have not yet taken part in an Intimacy Experience you may be curious, intrigued because nowhere do we explain what we do even though I am so enthusiastic about it….
This is deliberate, not because the Intimacy Experience has something to hide, but because it is so powerfully simple that a literal description would not do the experience justice. It is an experience, which is constantly fresh and different each time.
Still to feel safe in attending an Intimacy Experience you may have some desire to understand how it works. In service of this I could explain the Intimacy Experience in terms of:
NLP – during the Intimacy Experience we collapse negative anchors associated with other people, replace them with positive anchors and through the use of intelligent feedback create updated maps of what is possible in the world.
Transactional analysis – the adapted child is given such full attention that it becomes natural once more allowing the adult to review, set aside or adapt parental scripts that sometimes have been passed down for generations.
Hypnosis – During the Intimacy Experience everyday waking trances triggered in self to other interactions that determine habitual behaviour are dissolved through fixation of attention on predetermined foci leading to an awake, sensitive and alert state.
Freudian – actually I know so little about Freudian ideas that anything I write here will most likely be ridiculous…but if I don’t you may think I’m repressed so I’ll do it anyway. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. The Intimacy Experience is a return to the prenatal oceanic state while maintaining the adult awareness and during which the demands of the id and superego are temporarily suspended leading to a lasting relief from oedipal tendencies.
Coactive coaching – when fully listening without agenda during an Intimacy Experience it facilitates what is truly important and valued to take become evident and to take precedence.
Jungian –the Intimacy Experience encourages an opening to the collective unconscious which in turn bestows gifts that allow shadow qualities to be viewed, accepted and healthily integrated into the personality.
New age – attracted to all the positive energy in the Intimacy Experience a host of angels rains crystal light and healing.
Meditative – the Intimacy Experience is meditation practise in which another human being is the focus of the meditative practise which allows higher functions of awareness to be liberated from egoic restrictions.
Cybernetic – the Intimacy Experience is the creation of a larger system from individual units in which information is shared through verbal and non verbal channels on how to create such larger intelligent systems in different contexts.
Surfer – Dude it’s like getting a hug from the universe!
Neuro-physiology – natural mammalian eye function is used in such a way as to stimulate the limbic system and other areas of the brain that trigger a cascade of neurotransmitter and hormone release that leads to a great sense of wellbeing. Sadly nobody has ever held an Intimacy Experience in a giant fMRI** to observe brain functioning so this is an untested hypothesis. It would be interesting…
Poetic – the sunlight warms everything upon which it falls, and with its steady turning rhythm stirs what is hidden beneath the surface so that spring can blossom forth once more (test this one in an fMRI)
Deep ecology – in the temporary creation of an artificial tribe a degree of the ancient evolutionary intelligence that is not given space in technological culture is accessible. This is the intelligence that perceives and values the many connections that make all life possible on this planet. There is a profound experience of ‘coming home.’
Reading this you can probably tell which of these models I have more respect and affection for, which ones I wrote with my tongue in cheek, and which ones I wrote with a tear in my eye (in some cases it may be both).
You may also notice that some of the models come from therapy. I want to underline however that the Intimacy Experience is not therapy. It is a recognition of perfection in each moment. There is everything to accept and nothing to fix.
Which frankly is a relief because it means you will not have to deal anyone’s clumsy, amateurish and well meaning attempts to fix you. It is a relief for me too, because even if I have developed some therapeutic kung-fu*** over the years I don’t have to play the rescuer to anyone else’s victim.
The playing field here is flat, the intelligence is shared and the learning does not come from any individual.
Naturally after the experience our thinking minds have a desire to understand and categorise it. Each of the models above comes close to the experience in some way and yet falls far short of what it actually is. The experience will not fit in the model, it is best to just experience it.
So when you come to the Intimacy Experience it’s best to leave your mental models at the door. They will be quite safe there, you can pick them up again as you leave, and if you like you can apply your intelligence to your memory of the experience examine and enrich them. After all that’s what intelligence is for, and my favourite models are the intelligent ones.
*So what happened to the ‘old’ Edward apart from getting older – or is that backwards? Come to the Intimacy Experience and find out.
**functional magnetic resonance imager
** *kungfu does not only mean Chinese martial arts – it refers to any capacity that took work over time to develop
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